sylver-drawer:

The wmmap fandom made (and still does) me so confused about their opinions on Jennette (both her novel and manhwa counterparts). Is she too naive and forgiving, or is she too ignorant and selfish? I’ve heard so many opinions about her from manhwa and novel readers that I literally can’t tell whether they actually think that or just don’t care enough about her character to see past their own prejudices.

There’s so many novel readers who bash on her and say she’s dumb and stupid every chance they get, but there are also novel readers who say she’s realistic and acted normally (I also thought she wasn’t as bad as I kept hearing after finally reading it).

There are and were so many manhwa readers who said she was selfish and willfully ignorant about others, but others (including me) who think she’s actually hypersensitive to others and is very in touch with her own and others’ emotions. I get people’s interpretations can be different, but to such big degrees between so many people about the same character??? Like there’s gotta be something weird right???

I’m pretty sure a lot of readers identify themselves as athy and they just don’t like her because she’s the “obstacle” to Athy’s happiness. Even tough the only real obstacle is her douche bag of a father lol

“ The Secret Gem of Obelia” Chapter 8 is out on Wattpad! ♥

kindaferret:

He bab but he also shoot

Illustration for Chapter 7 of “ The Secret Gem of Obelia”!

New chapter is up on Wattpad!

Ei goes to the apothecary with Ame. The trip doesn’t go according to her plans.

salmonandsoup:

sosayset:

seymour-butz-stuff:

c-ptsdrecovery:

educatedsavage:

probablyasocialecologist:

sisyphereantask:

sustainableseparatists:

rumade:

I’d divorce him too lmao

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness

Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together.

The Atlantic

Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

When they are speaking about a passion, respond to children as if you would a tenured professor at a prestigious university, and to an adult as if you would a child free of the burdens of adulthood. 

Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested.  Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid. 

“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”

“Hey neighbor, your vegetable garden is absolutely gorgeous this year…and no I’m not just saying that because the tomatoes you gave me last year were absolute perfection.”

And if you can’t respond to the emotional bid at that moment, let them know you heard them. If there’s a gorgeous bird outside, ask your loved one to take a picture so you can share in it together. But by god, hear them. Tell them they were listened to.

(via tired-reader-writer)

yonokomizuka:

Let’s go, princess. Just you and me

(Was too lazy to search up wmmap backgrounds, someone write a fic about this tehee)

(via jeweled-blue-eyes)